Perfection is a Lie: Why We're Getting Real with the "Powerfully Imperfect" Podcast

Perfection is a Lie: Why We're Getting Real with the "Powerfully Imperfect" Podcast

Look, everyone out there is selling you a dream of perfection. The perfect Instagram couple, the perfect business, the perfect life. They show you the highlight reel, the best two out of 150 pictures, and tell you to just follow their steps. That's total bullshit.

My wife, Coach Whit, and I are launching a new podcast, and we're calling it what it is: Powerfully Imperfect. Because here's the raw truth: Perfection is a lie. Excellence is achievable. And we strive for excellence, but the only way to truly be "perfect" is to lie. It's that simple.

The Nerve-Wracking Reality of Being Real

We dragged our feet on this podcast for a long time. Why? Because it's nerve-wracking to show the real thing. It's easy to talk about "real issues for real people" until you have to show your real issues. It means showing your ass to the world, in a way. Not literally, I hope you won't see my actual ass (though with us, who knows how we roll?), but it means exposing who we are. An authentic couple, failing forward, just like every other couple out there.

We want you to see us. We want you to see the truth.

From Accidental Coaches to Relationship Architects

Our journey into couples coaching was almost an accident. I was coaching thousands of men, and Whit was coaching hundreds of women, many of whom were married to the men I'd coached. And I started hearing stories, thinking, "Man, I know this story... but he left out the part where he was drunk on cocaine and wrecked the car!"

Suddenly, we had this incredibly unique perspective on how couples communicate – or don't. This podcast, Powerfully Imperfect, is going to be all about that: spoken and unspoken communication inside a relationship.

Coaching, Not Counseling: Building Your Future Together

First thing: when we say "coaching not counseling," some people get defensive. Nothing is wrong with counseling! We love our counselor, and we'll even try to get her on the podcast. Counseling is phenomenal for healing the past, dealing with traumas, putting a cast on a broken arm and letting it heal. Counselors are super good at that.

But coaching? The word "coach" means it takes you somewhere. Coaching is about: "Hey, where are we, and where do we want to go together? What are we co-creating in our marriage?"

For too many couples, that "co-creation" just ends up being kids. And there's nothing wrong with kids – we have five of them! But if that's the only thing you're creating, you're going to be really sad in about 18 years. I've had two leave the house, a third leaving this year, a fourth next year. It took forever, and it was gone in a second. We want to get you focused on co-creation that lasts.

The 1+1=3 Relationship Dynamic

We often think of marriage as 1+1=1. But the truth is, it's 1+1=3. There's you, your spouse, and then there's the relationship itself. Three things to manage. If you don't take care of yourself, your relationship will have a big problem. Same for your spouse. And then there's the relationship entity that needs its own care.

Beyond Right and Wrong: What Works?

One of the most powerful shifts we've seen in couples is moving beyond the endless struggle of "right and wrong." Think about Star Wars – an epic battle between right and wrong that never ends. Why? Because that battle never ends.

As a couple, you can move beyond right and wrong to "working vs. not working." What works for you and your wife? What works for you and your husband? What works for you and your committed partner? That's it. That's what matters.

We're going to have relationship experts, erotic experts, counseling experts, and all sorts of people come on this podcast to talk about issues that absolutely matter. Not some pie-in-the-sky theory, but real, fundamental conversations about what works for your couple.

Radical Authenticity and Real Talk

What are we most excited about? We'll be saying the things to one another that guys say about girls when girls aren't around, and what women say about men when men aren't around. So often, we pretend around one another, then go vent to our friends. We have a very unique relationship where we literally talk to one another how we think, we say what's really on our mind. It can be awesome, and it can be terrible, but we're hoping you'll benefit from it.

We're really happy, really excited. We hope you'll join us on the Powerfully Imperfect podcast. We'd love to have you here, making comments, asking questions. We'll be participating with you in real-time.

It's time to stop chasing perfection and start building a powerfully imperfect life that truly works for you.